An Open Letter to All Struggling Developers Feeling Like They Don’t Belong

Dragos Nedelcu
11 min readJul 15, 2021
Dragos Nedelcu — Software Developer and Trainer

It happens every morning…

You grab a fresh coffee, open your Macbook, and read about the latest tech out there.

You watch developers working for your dream companies talking on stage. They talk about the latest updates on the libraries they released. About the cool things, they are working on right now.

They are your superheroes

In 3 minutes tech talks, they solve issues you would struggle with for days. And they do it live, in front of an audience. Afterwards, they use all the right words to explain these complex technologies with ease. And they open-source everything on Github. Guess what, by now, millions of people are using that code already.

So you start dreaming

But, your dreams are modest. Forget being on stage, what about getting that senior dev position? What about getting more responsibility? What about working for one of those cool software companies? You could afford all the gadgets you want. You would finally stop worrying about those overpriced morning coffee lattes you are addicted to.

These coding skills of yours must be worth something. Something more.

Wait a minute.

This is not the first time you thought about this. You did it for weeks now. You made a plan. You bought a few online courses. You secretly checked other jobs. You even grabbed your courage and talked to your tech lead about your aspirations.

Yet, here you are again…

Something always gets in the way

You actually, never finished those courses. Your tech lead said there are still things you lack, that you could do better in code reviews.

The jobs you look at are terrifying, they ask for so many technologies you never got to touch. Quickly the bright future you imagined, the dream of using your coding skills for something bigger is now an illusion.

Anyway, the clock is hitting 10:00. The daily standup will start. Enough procrastinating, you will think about it tomorrow. So you jump in the daily meeting half asleep and talk about yesterday’s bug that you are still investigating.

You tell yourself that at some point “it will click”, just like it did with the senior developers around you.

If you just practiced a bit more. If you would just finish that data structures course you bought last week.

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What if it never really “clicks”?

Maybe is just another stupid dream anyway. Developers are average “janes and joes”. We don’t save lives, we don’t fight crime. Hell, most days we don’t even leave our chairs. Why even bother?

Developers are average “janes and joes”. We don’t save lives, we don’t fight crime.

Pay is good enough and conditions are bearable. When the evening comes you find yourself watching the latest Netflix series instead. Is about a hacker so there must be something to learn from it.

The price of mediocrity

As a fresh developer, I got my first job by luck. I was new in town, I did not speak the language, I did not want to wash any toilets and I was able to write code (mostly spaghetti code, but working code).

Back then, if you were able to write some JavaScript you got the job. I remember we had a joke that even our neighbor’s dog could get a developer job in those times. Good ol’ times. Nowadays junior devs need 3 years of experience just to get an interview. Damn, I feel so old.

The first six months on the job were hard. As a self-taught coder, I had gaps all over.

I didn’t even consider myself a programmer. I was an accidental hacker at best.

My lack of formal education in Computer Science only made things harder (programming is still taboo in traditional engineering, except some Matlab scripting).

The invisible trap of ambitious developers

Yet, after a few months in my new programming job, things got a lot easier. I got used to the codebase, the product, and the people. My skills were, let’s say above average. Same for my salary.

But, as soon as my bills were paid and I could afford the latest gadget, my aspirations took second place. When I got home in the evenings, instead of coding I played computer games for hours.

I drown myself in trash food, alcohol, and binge-watch crap for night’s end. In the morning, I would go back to a job I wasn’t excited about.

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And the ball kept rolling

You see, the biggest enemy of an ambitious developer is not the complex technology. It is not that things always change. Not even the lack of knowledge. It is comfort. Because after getting that first job, that first promotion, we all get a bit too comfortable.

The enemy of doing great is doing good, particularly good enough.

Ghosts of the past

It was a sunny summer day, mid-august. I was scrolling through my old diary. It outlined a plan on how to grab my courage and leave that soul-crushing job. To work for a top tech company, even give a tech talk. Fast forward two years and nothing of that happened.

And you know why? For a long time, I told myself I was smart. I told myself one day I will finish those courses. One day I will brush up on my skills. One day I will leave that crappy programming job.

As you guessed, ‘one day’ translated to never.

Reading through that old diary, I became sick. Sick of mediocrity. Sick of all the fantastic ideas that never saw the light of the day. And most importantly I was sick of myself.

Ambition is not enough

You see, my biggest mistake as a developer was not the spaghetti code, it was not misinterpreting requirements or not writing enough tests. My biggest mistake was waiting for things to happen.

It took me years to realize an ugly but universal truth: ambition is not enough: potential is not enough. Writing things down is not enough.

If you fail to execute, “one day” will become never.

The following nights I couldn’t close an eye. So, I wiped out my old computer. I took note of all my unfinished Udemy courses, scraped most of them, and finished what I could. I created a strict timetable outlining objectives and deadlines.

Every day after work I would study until midnight. From programming fundamentals to Cloud to Microservices, you name it. On the weekends I would join hackathons. On and on, everything I did was coding.

I became obsessed

Learning things, building projects, and meeting other developers gave me back the feeling of excitement that I somehow lost. Yes, I was overworked but I was excited. Nevertheless, something was still missing.

I was going fast, but I was going nowhere.

You see, if you take 5 steps in 5 different directions, you will barely move. My weekend hacks were mostly code I was already familiar with. Between all the socializing and traveling, I would end up exhausted just to start again on Monday. I was overworked, overweight, and burned out.

I was still trapped, only my hamster wheel was turning faster.

In the middle of all this mess, I joined a random meetup about software development. It was about programming as a discipline, as a profession (a topic I did not even understand anyway, but they had free pizza).

It was there where I met the most influential mentor I had during my whole dev career. Already the CTO of a highly successful tech company in Germany at a really young age, he was everything that I dreamed of becoming when I started this coding journey. He was extremely sharp, in great shape and mood.

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He was everything dreamed to be…

So, after the meetup, I translated my desperation into courage. I gathered my strength and asked him what I should do if, one day, I wanted to become like him.

He suggested we meet and have a coffee. We did so in the following weeks. Half an hour became a whole evening. He told me about his journey and his views on programming and software development.

For the first time in my few years as a developer, I felt excited. I felt that there was something more to this coding thing.

Things were still not great but if he made it, so could I

Following his advice, I retouched my study plan. But I decided to cut the crap. So, I deleted all unfinished courses and went back to the basics. All this time I have been jumping around from technology to technology. I missed one important detail.

Most of what we call ‘new’ in software development, is actually reinventing the wheel.

The latest libraries are fancy mixes of standard web technologies. So what if instead of studying the end result I focus on the principles behind them. I would be able to understand what is going on regardless of the programming language, the framework, or the language.

The key was in the fundamentals

Dragos, you must be a genius or something.

In the meantime, an email landed in my inbox for a side job as a coding instructor. I accepted it without thinking. It was teaching the very basics, assisting students in web development. Probably the most instructing period in my career as a dev.

Studying the fundamentals over and over is still the most powerful way I know to get good at software development.

Regarding my mentor, what started as a casual encounter became a long-term friendship. We met regularly once a month.

Fast forward a few weeks and I was interviewing with the major tech companies in the city. The most promising one, a well-established fintech startup based in Berlin. I ended up declining their offer and accepting something much, much better (more on this in another article).

In six crazy months, I went from underpaid, undervalued, and frustrated coder to joining a top tech company and teaching. Was it hard? You bet it was. Was it worth it? Well, the tech stack was better. The money was much better. And I was finally surrounded by professional programmers that I could learn from.

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But the best was not even that

Nothing in this world beats the feeling of achievement you get from getting good at something you poured your life into (in this case programming). Something that became so close to you, so central to your existence. Unhealthy obsession? Sure.

Nothing in this world beats the feeling of achievement you get from getting good at something you poured your life into (in this case programming).

But, for a kid that spent the first years of his adult life jumping from soulless programming job to soulless programming job, I am telling you that is a lot of something.

The catch

I had no superpower. I did not start coding when I was 10. None of my parents, relatives, or close friends was a programmer. To be honest, I never imagined being one. Computers were machines. Static and structured.

I had no superpower. I did not start coding when I was 10.

Yet, I always wanted to be somebody, and software development seemed like the perfect industry. This is why I left my engineering job. This is why the long nights. The frustration and the constant traumas of code reviews.

Commit to getting it done

Stop wondering if this is still for you. Just commit to getting it done. You don’t need a gift, a secret, or an interest from an early age. You do need hard work and dedication.

To hell with passion.

Honestly, I don’t care if you do it for the money. If you do it for personal achievement or for the comfort that comes with it. Just do it.

Looking back, the things that helped most were the things I hated the most. Staring at the same pieces of code over and over, showing up when you don’t feel like and asking for help, and keeping yourself from blowing off when you feel you just can’t get enough.

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What the “software community” got wrong

The greatest tragedy in our sector right now is the myth that your potential to be a great developer is determined by things such as the age you started to code at or a diploma.

Phrases like “I started coding at 11” make being a great developer seem like something written in the stars.

No, I am not going to deny the importance of talent. But yes I will tell you it is totally overrated (I still don’t consider myself a talented coder, but a good one).

It is true that early exposure to computers definitely helps if you are trying to be the next Bill Gates or Mark Zuckerberg. But, most programmers out there are not and they need not be those people.

No, you don’t need a calling, a gift, you are not a prophet. You do need discipline and courage.

And you do need to get going

You must stop waiting for the magic moment when everything will click. You need to make this your number one priority.

Take your craft seriously or good luck working everyday in a mediocre programming job. Fixing forgoten legacy code for the rest of your life.

For me, that is worse than death.

How I can help you

If you got to this point of the article, then you are probably an ambitious coder wanting to explore their full potential. Maybe you want a better-paying job, maybe you finally want to gain long-lasting confidence in your technical skills.

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We have built a whole team of specialized software training experts. We burned the midnight oil, we talked to other developer friends, we talked to their tech leads.

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Best of success!💪

Dragos Nedelcu

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Dragos Nedelcu

I help JavaScript Developers Get To Senior Level Without Endless Online Courses, Side Projects Or Burning Out By Mastering The Fundamentals.